Why Clear Choice Counseling?
Choosing to work with a therapist or coach is an important decision. I believe that the therapeutic chemistry between us is essential to successfully working together. My professional role as a therapist and coach flows out of who I am as a person. I think you have a right to know who I am and how I work before you hire me.
More about Me
As a recovering people pleaser, I know the chaos that comes from trying to keep everyone happy. Feeling like you’re always giving and not getting much back; wondering why you’re doing things in the first place. I worked hard at getting to know myself and make choices that reflect what I truly believe and value. I want to help you do the same!
If you’re here, you probably feel stuck, overwhelmed, or immobilized. You know things need to change, but you’re not sure how to move forward. This is where I come in. I can help you get clear about what really matters to you and why. Then I’ll support, encourage, and challenge you to make the choices that line up with who you really are.
My style of therapy is straight forward, compassionate, and action-oriented. I will spend time getting to know you and your pain and then I’ll help you get through it. The way I see it, you aren’t coming to me to complain about your problems, you want to change them! I believe there’s a balance between compassionately listening to your pain and giving you the tools you need to heal.
This is why I created Clear Choice Counseling:
When you’re done working with me, my hope is that you’ll
feel confident to take ownership of your life
be a courageous and creative problem solver
be resilient when new challenges come your way
feel deeply supported and inspired to be your truest self
If you’re ready to shake off what’s holding you back, I’m here. Let’s do this, together!
Why Sex Addiction?
When Your Passion Chooses You
Many people ask me why I chose to specialize in sex addiction. Oftentimes, our passions flow out of our pain, so one might expect that sex addiction has impacted me personally. But it goes deeper than that. To me, it’s not about sex addiction, it’s about shame. Shame impacts everyone on some level.
When I first read Out of the Shadows, by Patrick Carnes, I was deeply impacted by the shame experienced by people who are struggling with compulsive sexuality. I know the sting, grief, and isolation of shame. I hate it. Shame is debilitating. In the words of Brene Brown, shame “needs three things to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence, and judgment.” My mission is to be a compassionate place where you can speak freely, honestly, and courageously.
Journey to Safety
I felt the pull of thousands of people who were suffering in shame and silence and I had to do something. I had to be a safe person with whom you could share your story. I completed training through IITAP to become a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist because I believe that we can only change what we bring into the light. But we need a safe torch-bearer. I’m passionate about helping you through the process of recovery. It’s not easy, it takes time, and there will be setbacks. But my hope is that you’ll be rid of shame and living courageously in the light.
Support for Partners
Partners of sex addicts are often misunderstood. Many people think you should “just leave.” Others subtly blame you for your partner’s sexual behaviors. I know you’re in a lot of pain. I know you have a lot of questions. The beginning of sex addiction recovery is chaotic and I’m passionate about helping you find clarity in the midst of it.